Avoid Homework Meltdowns

Homework overload. This is an all too common occurrence in many homes.  Exhausted kids spending too much time on homework – or doing everything but homework. And stressed out parents who just want it done.  There are many debates over homework (how much is too much, how long should it take, is it even necessary), but the harsh reality is that it’s still assigned in 99% of schools and needs to be done.

The following tips can help to create a positive atmosphere around homework and encourage your child to stay focused during homework time.

• Honor homework time in your home. After kids reconnect, play and process their day, create a homework hour in your house. Turn off electronic distractions. While older students might prefer to do homework in a quiet room away from you, younger kids may not be ready for that. Sit them at a central counter or table to do their work while you do your work.
• Stock a homework basket, caddy, or shelf with all the supplies your kids will need. This eliminates excuses and lots of up and downs that chip away at time. Keep pencils sharpened, glue sticks closed, and staplers filled. It also helps to stock pencils, poster board, index cards, and writing paper.
• Guide, don’t do. Resist giving your children the answers. Instead, ask a question that will lead them to the answer. Or take a “lets figure this out together” approach. Teachers need to know which students understand the curriculum and which need a reteach. 
• Do regular check-ins. When you check up on your child’s progress, rather than him coming or calling to you every other minute, he’ll focus more on his work rather than getting you to his side. If your child is 7, tell her you’ll do a check every 7 minutes; if 8, do an 8 minute check.  This also lets kids know you’re paying attention and helps to build their independence.
• Split it into sections. If your kids get overwhelmed, help them break their homework into parts. Separate it by subject or section so they can see each part and complete them one at a time. If they put each section back when it’s finished, they will see themselves making progress.

A positive aspect of homework is that it keeps parents connected to what their children are learning in school.  Take advantage of the opportunity of getting a sneak peak into your child's school day and help your child to make real life connections to whatever topics they are learning about.  Learning about measuring?  Get out your measuring spoons and let them help make dinner.  Learning about stars?  Take a few moments before bedtime to look into the sky and discuss the constellations.  More connections to real life = deeper learning.​